Intending to meet your soul mate

[Angel]

I have started this discussion because I am very interested to learn if anyone has indeed intended to meet their soul mate and done so successfully. I understand that i have to become that which i desire to experience and i know that it is down to me to allow this experience to be created, to have no doubt and total faith...... any ideas or advise from the beautiful peeps in this common unity would be gratefully accepted and blessed x

[Steven Burnand]

Hi Angel, I must admit I have met a couple of soul mates over my life time, although on each occasion I was in a relationship with someone that turned out to not be my soul mate! :o( Being married on both occasions and making vows I remained faithful to my partner and through moving from town to town I lost touch with them.

My idea of a soul mate is someone that is your lover or in my case ‘would be lover’ and your best friend. Someone you can share your deepest feelings with both physically and metaphysically, the union of two worlds!

It appears that energy needs to freely reciprocate between two people in order to become stable between their two world views and there are a few people ‘for all of us’ out there somewhere, that can reciprocate freely with our very own and personal world views.

There is of course the ego version of a soul mate and that comes in the form of a co-dependency.

This is where you admire the person for having qualities you do not have at the time and put that person up on a white marble pedestal. These relations are based on surface and when you have integrated those qualities into your own being or no longer value them, this type of relationship dies, as after the admiration has diminished you find you have very little it common with each other.

Some will desperately try to change each other in the hope of bringing a person back or forwards to where their perceptions are coming from and this as many will testify is a futile exercise.

I would say the ego based mate is the most common form of relationship today in Western societies as living the dream teaches most to look no further than the surface. Hence the staggering divorces rates.

Steve (still looking for his deep thinking and caring soul mate who has to be out there somewhere)

[Angel]

Hi Steve

Thanks for the advice which i totally agree with. People do have far too many expectations where their ideal partner is concerned and things often go wrong because of this. What we perceive as bad experiences at the time, are blessings in disguise because they allow us to grow into the very person we are looking for.

[Steven Burnand]

Hi Angel I whole heartedly agree, our search is for the self and the universal mind has self organising qualities, so it too is organising people and bringing them together in ways that ultimately lead to a self healing and in turn to a more efficient use of psychic and physical energy.

Its tell tale signs of being present are synchronicity déjà vu and those universal patterns that Jung called Archetypes. Listening to what Lynn had to say on her CD set Living The field I now understand a little more about why some days I seem to be so much in tune and others out of tune! Wow those days in sync are truly amazing!

So adding to my definition of a soul mate, it’s also important that they understand that they too are on this journey and can relate to your journey being different to theirs.

The universal mind seems to know in advance as to what we need to experience and sharing our thoughts about these experiences is giving some of that energy back to its source.

Best intentions to you and all….Steve

[Angel]

Thanks again Steve your input is all ways valuable.

[Jean Mackenzie]

Hi Steve, Perhaps that soul mate is not "out there somewhere" but deep within us and once we make that inner connection to our soul then the outer form of the soul mate comes into our energy field. And they will probably need to have made that same connection with their inner soul so that it can also be reflected "outside". Just a thought...

[Angel]

Hi Cynthia, many thanks for your advice. I shall look into the book you mentioned and I am sure by focusing on this it will help prepare me. I have been reading Neale Donald Walsch today and he says to go into any relationship with the thought of what you can give the other person, not what you want to receive from that person. This is usually something that you cannot find within your-self and look to in another.
Blessings x

[Angel]

Gratitude and blessings for your words of wisdom Tony which I will bear in mind. :]

[ChadS]

I've found my soul mate not necessarily by intending to find her. Although I had ideas about what I would like in a person. It's really a funny story how it all happened. And perhaps I'll share it with you sometime. The key for me and for her as I've asked her, was to look at our own motives for wanting a relationship. I knew I was in love when all logic told me not to get involved. When I had no need for anyone in my life. And I think that kind of thinking was the key to the success of our relationship to date. The idea is to not look or surrender your intentions and move on. That has been the sticking point in all the things I've manifested in my life. The momment I truely let go and decided to be happy without what ever I was wanting then the universe/higher power or what ever took over and made it all happen. A friend of mine in a twelve step program put it this way. "God will not help you so long as you are trying to fix it because he wants to make it perfectly clear that He fixed it and that you had nothing to do with it." That makes a lot of sense to me.

Today I look what I could add to the stream of our relationship and not necessarily what I could get out of it.

[Tom Flower]

ChadS,
You just won the Blue Ribbon for best response !!! You wrote " The idea is to not look or surrender your intentions and move on." You said it right. Once we set our intention, let it go and move on. Be happy. BECAUSE...THE FIELD holds the potentiality of infinite organizing power. The FIELD of all possibilities is from where the soul mate would arise from. You are correct in saying that things happen" when we let go." That is right. At the point of letting go....we stop collapsing the quantum wave from our limited pespective and allow for THE GREATER WHOLE (The Field) to be the context in which the soul mate (or whatever) could manifest itself.
Great insight on your part. Your answer is everyday quantum mechanics. Keep writing.
Tom

[Angel]

Hi Tom,

Is giving up the same as letting go? Do i give up and resign myself to the prospect of continuing my journey alone or sit safe in the knowlege that it is already happening. Actually I think I have already answered my question.

Blessings Tom. Thanks for your input :]

[Tom Flower]

Angel,
Giving up is different than letting go. Giving up says for the most part that the situation is not working and that one has had it and thats it and thats all..... I'm through with this...I have had enough and I am giving up and renouncing my interest in the prospect of my original intended outcome.

Letting go says," I have set the INTENT, I now release it so that it can become so in my life. I have to do no more. It will be done accordingly...so be it. Be it so in the name of the Highest Good. I am WILLING. (Willing is an action verb ) To will something is to set a decree for it to be so in your life.

Also on a side note....and this is only my belief. I do not think that there is one soul mate for each soul. I can say there are several souls I have "mated" with and feel as though I have known in the past. I recognized the connections with each mate on different resonate frequencies of thought. We have underlying unspoken truths and beliefs that match up. Some mates have been closer than others. Most soul mates are old Karmic ties from numerous lifetimes playing out through numerous bodies. It is fun to recognize them. My four closest mates in this life have all had the first name with the letter M.... Margie, Meredith, Marie, and Mary Anne. All have Scottish/English ancestory and heritage. DNA frequency. Somethings going on there. Who knows. Love it where you are at now!

Go about your life...set your Intent, Be Willing... and Let It Be !!
Tom

[Raoul]

As you resonate the universe resonates with you. As long as we treasure this as a monitoring device to keep track with our proceedings and to change what's 'out there' (steering resonance/ manifestation process so universe/ our (greater-) Self goes out there to make it happen). This fabric we consist of is intelligent and we don't have to think for it, the need for 'coaltion building' with 'soul mates' is in that fabric and so it comes.. However, you may very well fall in love with science or the people you work with, and it can also be that we let our ratio come to interfere with our wishes, so therefore I can just say best that there's just one you who knows really and that's you.