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I got a message in my inbox that you left a comment for me, but the link was removed by Lynne - which is actually fine with me. I'm glad my suggestions helped people, but I apparently 'stirred the pot' for a lot of other people (I don't know a thing about scientific protocol - just thought I was 'sharing' on a forum! Who knew?!)
Hope you're having a wonderful day!
Heather
I think I should first tell you some of the most important things I have learned on my healing journey. Maybe that way your mother can avoid some mental and emotional anguish. The most important thing for her to remember, I think, is not to expect a magical cure. There were so many times where, out of my desperation to escape the pain, I thought every new treatment I tried was going to be the one to cure me. Usually I would feel great for a day or more, but then the pain would come back. It was like a placebo effect. When I realized I hadn’t been cured, I was crushed, and thrown into an awful depression.
I am not saying that your mother should not explore her options. Some of the treatments I tried really did help. They just didn't cure me. It was all part of my journey, and I wouldn't take it back. What I learned from it was how to give up control. Once I gave up control over it, it was as if a big weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I hope I'm not rambling here. The point I'm trying to make is, it has given me peace of mind to have this attitude: I am on a healing journey. Someday I may be cured, someday I may not. I’m going to take this one day at a time, take the best care of myself I can, and if one day the pain is gone for good, then that will be wonderful. If not, then at least I know I’m not adding to the pain by trying to rebel against it or giving up caring for myself.
I have to practice acceptance every day.
There is one thing that's been a HUGE saving grace on my healing journey-yoga. That is where my healing journey began. I begin EVERY SINGLE DAY with a 1 hour (at least) routine every morning. I cannot make it through the day without it; I will have a flare up or attack if I skip it. It is the biggest, most significant method to reducing pain and fatigue. Sometimes it is gone afterwards, for an hour or more. I’ve come to love my morning routine, and crave it. If your mother is open to the idea, I would highly suggest that the first thing she does to move toward coping with her pain is to go to a yoga class. Make sure that, if she goes, she goes to a teacher who is taught under the tradition of vinyasa, or of viniyoga. These particular traditions, especially with viniyoga, focus on individualistic needs. If a person is elderly, or has a knee injury, or a certain chronic illness, etc.-the teacher is supposed to take that into account and design the practice according to that person's needs. Make sure that your mother lets the instructor know that she has fibromyalgia. Make sure she lets the instructor know if a certain pose is painful. I HIGHLY suggest that before she goes to a class with other people, she does a private lesson. It’s spendy but worth every cent with the right teacher (trust me, I’m broke as a joke but I found a way and it saved my life!) If you can, try and get an instructor who is older and has been teaching for, I'd say, more than five years at the very least. The reason I suggest that she do yoga is because yoga opens the door to healing on every level. In my case, I started off doing yoga (or more accurately, asana, which means the physical piece of yoga that westerners think is the only piece).
After a few years (for some it may take longer or much shorter) I began to become more aware of my body’s needs, and of my spirit. I began to read up on nutrition and tried to eat a healthier diet. After another couple of years, my teacher introduced me to chanting. I became aware of my mind (chanting stills the mind and heals the emotional body-it is not for everyone but I like it). Soon I was introduced to meditation. Another year later, my teacher introduced me to pranayama, or breathing practices designed to have certain physiological effects on the body and mind. With all the tools, I have become a more positive person who is better able to take whatever life throws at me. That is an important thing to acquire, especially if you are dealing with a mysterious illness such as fibromyalgia.
Be patient with your mother. Dealing with this illness is a very confusing thing. She probably has dealt with feelings of alienation because of it. To this day, there are still doctors who don't believe this is a real illness, that it’s a “wastebasket diagnosis”. There are millions of people who don't understand it, or who make snap judgments about people who have received the diagnosis. I have also come across people who are misdiagnosed-which only adds to the confusion! In the beginning, I was pretty negative, too. This was not only because I was a bit “unconscious”, and pessimistic to begin with, but also because-I was in pain all the time! You would be crabby, too! (-: On top of that, I felt rejected by society. I still deal with a lot of rage surrounding the experience I had with friends, family members, classmates, teachers, and doctors who thought I was crazy, seeking attention, or just didn’t understand. It's also a pretty crappy feeling when you're dealing with serious pain and nobody can tell you why or how to fix it.
It is important to remember that everybody heals at their own pace. What’s right for one person may not be right for another. Also, your mother has to feel she is ready to try certain healing methods. I wouldn't try to rush your mother into meditation or pranayama if she’s not ready. It took me 6 years to get there. For some, it’s only a few days. Again, some people may start out a different way; maybe they start by reading about nutrition first. Then they go to a yoga class, or a meditation class-and so on. Any way for your mother to turn on her body awareness is good. That is key. Once she is in tune with her body, her body will tell her just what it needs in order to heal!
I don't want to overwhelm you with a huge response, so I’ll tell you a couple more things, and I'll continue this later.
As far as diet goes, there are two things that I feel every fibromyalgia sufferer should cut out of their diet if nothing else-caffeine and refined sugar! I've been recording my diet for many years and these two little diet nasties are notorious for causing trouble with my condition. I hear from a lot of other fibromyalgia sufferers that they have had to cut this out of their diet as well.
There's another thing that might be helpful to your mother-recording her daily diet and exercise habits in a journal. I also have a sheet of paper where I can indicate where I felt pain throughout the day, to see if there's any correlation to what I was eating or what I was doing-and even how I was emotionally. I recently found that spending time with my father sparks flare ups!
Oh- and sleep is huge! Make sure she gets a full nights rest every single night (if she can help it)!
I hope that this is a help to you. Let me know if you have any questions. If you would like, I can go over more of the treatments that I've done over the years, and what's been helpful. I just don't want to cram too much into this one response! Good luck to you and your mother. My mother has been with me on this healing journey, and I know that it's almost been just as hard on her emotionally.Have faith that your mother will get there. I am in a much better place when I was six years ago, and I am able to do about 50% more than I used to! I am getting better. When the doctors tell you that it gets worse with age, don't believe them! It's a load of crap!